Although the holiday season brings up images of cheer and goodwill, this is not always the case. For some, the holidays can be a difficult time of year, especially if things are rocky at home and you’re facing marriage challenges, a divorce, or are separated from your children. Although there is no magic cure, there are a few things that you can do to prevent things from being worse: indulge in moderation, stay realistic and grounded, and focus on the future instead of the past.
Indulge in Moderation
Extra time off and the spirit of the season can easily lead to over-indulgence. In particular, if you’re going through a difficult time, it might seem like a good idea to drink more. While alcohol may feel like a quick fix to make situations bearable, it has a high likelihood of only causing more problems. When you imbibe too much alcohol, you are more likely to say and do things you will regret later. And since alcohol is a depressant, the very thing you are ingesting to cheer you up is likely only to increase your negative feelings. Being drunk and depressed over the Holidays will only add insult to injury. On the same note, overeating should also be avoided. Eating too much will not only make you feel physically bad but can also affect your mood and self-confidence.
Set Realistic Expectations
Holiday movies, books, and songs set up an idealized image of what the holidays should look like. Remember that no one has the perfect family, and everyone has problems. Behind every glossy Christmas card is a family with their own struggles. Staying realistic about your situation and what the holidays will be for you will help you to appreciate what you do have instead of focusing on what you don’t. Although your situation might not be the best, there are always things to be thankful for and celebrate. Find ways to enjoy and celebrate the season with those you are surrounded by, even if it isn’t ideal.
Focus on the Future
Traditional holidays focus a lot on nostalgia. It might be tempting to reflect on how things used to be for you and your family. Remember that you are looking at your memories through a rose-colored lens. Things were never perfect. Don’t compare your present circumstance to your past. Instead, focus on where you are now and what the future holds. Your present situation is not permanent. Also, even in troubling times, there is so much to be grateful for. Focus on where you are, who you are now, and where you are going. Be thankful for all you are blessed with and celebrate your life’s victories. Focusing on the positive things in your life now and what the future holds will help you not only survive the holidays but enjoy them and look forward to future celebrations.
The holidays are a special time of year, but they are also challenging. Everyone has their own personal trials they are dealing with. Know that you are not alone and it will get better. And don’t be afraid to rely on family and friends, even your attorney, to help get you through to a brighter future and a new start.